unexpected affection.

so L has been on the dating circuit lately, trying to move on from mr. robot. and she's been doing a great job and we've definitely been having fun with it - her in real life, and me vicariously. seriously, who breaks up with three - yes, THREE - guys in the span of just as many weeks. i think that each guy definitely had his own merits (but also no job, too churchy and too many moles that wiggled on their own - superficial i know but kind of deal breakers)- but just not the "spark" that she's been looking for. but i think it's been good for her self esteem, having survived mr. robot and his ego.

while she doesn't think that she has found her next true love yet, we've been texting about how sometimes love (or something quite close to it) finds you when you least expect it. kind of like the christina perri song "arms" says(see above) - about how she finds herself in love with someone at the most unexpected moment. love it when that happens. awesome.



i also feel that way about this song by she & him - i just had to investigate zooey deschanel's musical venture after finding out she is married to ben gibbard (i'm thinking - what does the guy behind death cab for cutie like from a musical standpoint? and she better be good if she's married to him). i find myself surprisingly falling for this song. smart, pop-y and sweet, i wasn't really sure of it at first... but now it's in heavy rotation.

love & affection really does find you when you least expect it. it kind of hits you like a runaway train and whisks you away. (even though it sometimes complicates things too.)

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ill communication.

my friend L, a tall, gorgeous blonde with a knife-sharp sense of humour and an amazing singing voice - is recently single again.  (i actually live vicariously through her dating {mis}adventures)  hearing her talk about the ways that people meet and communicate in this "modern" era of computers, iPhones, blackberries, txt messaging and the internet is mind boggling.  heck, i still remember fondly when all i could access was TEXT based internet and that was only after setting my modem to dial and redial until it didn't get a busy signal from the server. 

don't get me wrong, i am in LOVE with text messaging, email and BBM.  i am one of those people who likes to see things in writing.  i'm a sucker for stamps and stationary and the written missive.  but i cannot imagine how much harder it is to communicate with someone that you're interested in romantically when you aren't necessarily able to see their face or hear the nuances in their voice. my boss - a warm, sweet lady who is always there if you need a shoulder to cry on, comes across as cold and unforgiving in her emails.  and then again there are all those shorthand txt abbreviations - LOL, TTYL, WTF?   i myself have been the victim of massive misunderstandings because i've only been "talking" to someone via email - but i also have to admit that some of the best discussions (ahem* read - arguments) i have had have also been by text message.  L and i stay close via txt - we both agree it's the perfect medium for us.

L has met a myriad of men through the miracle of the internet who are interested in her - but some of them she has never even heard their voice. (even though i am not surprised - she attracts people wherever she goes and i loathe going out with her because she makes me feel fat, dumpy and troll-like)  one website even did a personality profile of her and "matched" her with people they thought she would be compatible with.  (however, one was a 5'2" little person about 10 years her junior - L is almost 6' in heels and prefers men her own age - she was kind of confused)   L is somewhat conservative however, in where she puts herself out in regards to the internet.  i see people all the time giving out their blackberry PINs, looking to chat with someone, anyone.  i watched an episode of CSI: Miami where Eric drove around in his oh so fancy humVee (during work time) and people messaged him looking to "hook up".  (i still can't figure out how THAT works.)  weird.  my friend B, met her fiance while playing World of Warcraft - she was in vermont, he in texas.

i can't imagine DATING in this environment.  sometimes i wonder about how safe everything is.  who are these people and what are their motives?  how do you know that they are being honest about what they are putting out there? 

then again, how is it really any different than going to the bar or a club and meeting someone there?  or meeting someone through acquaintances or through work?  probably not very different.  and i worry for the mini and my nieces and nephews - because i am sure by the time they are ready to date, the whole thing will be completely different again and i STILL won't be able to get my head around it.

 i'm just happy meeting people in person.  but feel free to txt me.  LOL.

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